Experienced pain during intercourse?

According to a survey, in Singapore, one out of 4 women has experienced painful sex.

In what kind of situation, did you find it painful?

Many of you might be surprised with the fact that many women have felt pain during intercourse. However, sex is supposed to be enjoyable in the first place. Let’s look into what you can do to get rid of the pain.

If it’s hurting, let it go…

Even if you love him, somehow it hurts. It hurts when partner inserts his penis deep into the vagina. When something like this occurs, you do not need to bear with the pain by yourself. Women are very sensitive. You have a feeling that you are ready but your vagina is not fully lubricated. Please don’t worry because this kind of dilemma happens quite often. You should feel neither guilty nor ashamed about this - because it is obvious from the survey that getting lubricated is not that simple. Remember to say "NO" to your partner when you are not in the mood. Though if you still want to make love, ask your partner to take more time with foreplay so that your vagina can relax and naturally lubricate. There is no need to rush, it’s not a race!

What are the other causes of deep pain during sex?

Problems with your cervix

The man's penis hits the cervix at the farthest extent of his thrust. Infections of the cervix and tender places on it can cause pain during deep penetration. This is called 'collision dyspareunia'.

Womb trouble

Various womb disorders, including fibroids, can cause deep intercourse pain.

Endometriosis

This very common disorder often affects the womb and surrounding tissues. It makes them very tender, particularly near period times. The pressure of the penis on an area of endometriosis may cause intense, deep pain.

Ovary problems

Cysts on the ovary can cause deep pain. Pain may also be caused if the tip of the penis hits an unusually positioned ovary.

Pelvic inflammatory disease (PTD)

This is caused by infection, and has become more common among the young generation largely thanks to the bacteria known as chlamydia. If chlamydia isn't treated, there is quite a chance of PID developing. In PID, the tissues deep inside become badly inflamed and so the pressure of intercourse causes deep pain.

Ectopic pregnancy

This means a pregnancy outside the womb, usually in the Fallopian tube. Pressure on it can be very painful.

No more worries.
There are ways to reduce the pain during intercourse.

It's not much fun having pain during intercourse. After all, sex is meant to be an enjoyable and happy experience. If you get pain, it isn't. Fortunately, the trouble will often resolve if the man takes more time with foreplay so that the woman's vagina relaxes and her natural lubricant flows. If the couple uses one of the newer sex lubricants, it will enhance sexual pleasure.

Lubrication can be made from water, oil, petroleum or silicone, water-based lube is your best bet. It's safe to use with condoms (oil- and petroleum-based lubes can cause latex to deteriorate); it's easily washed away and it won't stain your sheets. Once you've scored some slick stuff (try it out solo to find a brand you like), keep it close by your bed for easy access. When you and your man are fooling around, fire up foreplay by pouring a nickel-sized dollop into your palm and rubbing your hands together to warm it up. Then, slowly spread it over the tip of his penis and work your way down his shaft. Have him return the favor and smooth some over your hot spots, too. When you're ready to go for it, give each other lube jobs again, only this time rub the lubricant over his condom. You can enhance his sensation by adding a drop into the tip of the condom before rolling it on.

During sex, replenish the lube whenever you feel a little dry. Simply stop for a second, have him pull out so you can reapply it over his condom, then let him glide back in. Just make sure you don't overdo it: A little wetness will ease penetration, but too much can make it impossible to generate frisky friction. Feel like giving them a try? You are able to get them here.